Ahhhhhh! Coaching Your Own Kids

I tell folks one of the hardest things to raised by or to be is a PK (Pastor’s Kid), TK (Teacher’s Kid) , or CK (Coach’s Kid). I was the son of a coach and the grandson of a teacher. The standards are high and everyone thinks you are getting it easy.  Yeah right! I still remember to this day when I got in trouble in school and my grandmother spanked me in front of the whole school. Okay I deserved it, but couldn’t we wait until we left. (LOL)

So what’s the topic? Recently,  I went to dinner with a fellow coach after a meet last week.  We spent the night telling each other stories about coaching our own kids over the years. From the tears, tirades, and tantrums you snuff out – yes sometimes your own –  as you try to maintain that crazy balance between being a Dad, coaching your own kid, and coaching everyone else.  Having trained & coached my kids through the process in basketball, soccer, track, and football at the various levels including high school, boy do I have memories and stories!  I want to hear from all of you coaches and kids of coaches out there with your great stories, experiences, and memories. What are yours?

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A Former student-athlete, performance trainer, inventor, public speaker and businessman, Coach Nick dedicated himself to help other student-athletes transform their lives before, during and after sports. To ensure student-athletes and their families use sports instead of sports using them. Coach Savage has trained or spoken nationally to thousands of student-athletes and coaches. As the inventor of the Savage Hill, Coach Nick has trained some of the top teams in the nation. He continues to fight for kids opportunities to achieve through sports and beyond.
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37 Responses to Ahhhhhh! Coaching Your Own Kids

  1. Danny Martin says:

    My sons are young and the hardest thing for me is how hard do I push them. After graduating from Morgan State with a Physical Education Degree it is extremely hard to watch bad coaching. 18 years of coaching kids who can I trust with my children more than I trust myself? I want the best out of them but I wonder do I push too hard or if I’m pushing hard enough? I know if they are never challenged they will not compete. It’s hard being a coach but I wouldnt trade it for anything in the world;but, being a Dad.

    • Nick says:

      I know what u mean Danny! When I’m on the field, court, track, etc. it’s like my musician cuzzin told me once. He plays the bass and he is in the zone he just disappears during the jam session. When I’m coaching and the kids are tuned in no matter the age on the sport, it’s like magic. All of the madness of overbearing parents, traffic, bills, and hardship go away when you see a kid blossom or just get IT. It’s just more special when it’s your own kid. The problem I have sometimes I expect it from my kids and probably don’t celebrate long enough when they get IT sometimes. When they don’t get IT; I may not let the situation go fast enough. For example, my son didn’t run a complex pass pattern correctly in the rain one day when he was younger; After prodding him several times, I told I would demostrate myself. Apparently he knew it was more slippery than I did. So I ran the pattern, slipped and tore my ACL. :-0 Ouch!!! Hard way 4 me 2 learn…I should’ve moved on. :-)

  2. Nick says:

    Yeah Danny I agree…I wouldn’t trade coaching my kids for the world. As with most Coaches I doubt if u have to worry about being too ez on them. We usually r 2 hard on them…The only time I see it too ez is when the Coach is really not a coach — they r parents trying to coach…at some we usually do have to let go so they can step out of our shadow…besides you can keep moving if they r successful we have to have our lives and take care of the next kid or surrogate kid if we r true 2 the trade. Outside of coaching to spend time with my kids, I usually coached because somebody else didn’t know how…when I wanted to rest or run my business! Morgan State huh? I a Bmore boy…luv 2 hear ur story…Nick

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